"Adoption is Spiritual Warfare"
I keep seeing this statement. If you follow some of the prominent adoption pages on social media I'm sure you have too.
My first thought on seeing this was relief. Relief that I wasn't alone in my feelings on adoptive parenting. Many days in my home I am fighting a battle for my child's heart.
Furthermore, I've learned that I'm either gaining ground or losing ground. There is no "cease fire" from this battle. If I'm not actively engaging and gaining ground, then you can bet the enemy is advancing against my child, filling her head full of lies, stealing back the ground we'd already won.
When I see this statement though, I do wonder if many adoptive and foster parents are left with the question -
"If adoption is truly spiritual warfare, then how do I respond?"
In the early days of our foster/adoption process, we were fairly new to church. I had gone to church as a teen, but had fallen away during the early years of our marriage. My husband did not grow up in church, and though he believed in God early in our marriage, he didn't fully give his life to Christ until around the time we began our foster/adoption journey. So we really were baby Christians. Had you told us that we were about to go head first into battle, we probably wouldn't have believed you, or had any idea what to do about it. Many families are ready and prepared for the fight, but we were not.
While I have not specifically studied spiritual warfare, over the next few posts I would like to share some of the things that have helped our family in this battle, as well as a few things God spoke to my heart in the early days.
When we first realized that our sweet Warrior Girl's behavior wasn't actually strong will, but a deeper issue, God spoke a few things to my heart as I desperately sought answers for her. I remember the Lord reminding me what kind of life she had come from, full of chaos and neglect. As I pondered what her life would have been like, had she continued in that life, it was a very bleak picture. I heard the Lord say, "As much as I have a plan for her, so does the enemy. He liked her where she was, in that destructive place and now that she is in a home where she is taught about Me, the enemy is angry. He will not give her up easily. You have to fight for her." It wasn't only an issue of trust vs. mistrust, but also a spiritual battle.
(If you're wondering if the enemy having a plan is Biblical, consider 1 Peter 5:8 "Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.")
A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. - Ephesians 6:10-13
Be strong in the Lord, put on God's armor, stand firm.
Please join me tomorrow as I share some tools God has given us to war with Him in the spirit for our daughter.